Adoption Info

Adoption Dissolution

Nothing in the world can ever go as smoothly as we like. This happens in all aspects of life and even in the world of adoption. Occasionally, a child gets adopted into a family and it doesn’t turn out to be the right move. There could be a number of factors that could lead to an adoption dissolution. This is often called “unadoption”.

Adoption dissolution isn’t very common when it involves a newborn or infant. It becomes more frequent with foster children who have problems adapting to their new environment and other family members such as siblings.

Siblings might tease the adopted child constantly or the adopted child might be very mean or abusive to new family members. Often this can be resolved through counseling or other forms of behavioral modification but not always.

Older children sometimes have a history of being adopted many different times by various families. This doesn’t mean they are bad children but could be due to medical issues.

ADHD and reactive attachment disorder can cause problems for adoptive parents who don’t understand these disorders completely and just can’t deal with them.

Sometimes adoption dissolution is the only choice so the child can find a family better equipped to handle their special needs.

Sometimes, the child might ask for an adoption dissolution. In some states, the law allows children to request this if they are at least 14 years old. The end result could place them back into a foster home or with some other relatives. This is a very emotional event that can affect parent and child alike but may be unavoidable.
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Adoption Agencies

Choosing An Adoption Agency

Adopting a child is a very big step in a couples life and the choices and laws involved in this process might seem overwhelming. One of the most important things you can do is find an experienced adoption agency with an outstanding reputation.

A good adoption agency can help you with all of your decisions as well as give you a lot of advice and education on the subject. The adoption process is very long and many questions will arise. An adoption agency is there to answer all your questions and ease your mind as much as possible.

One of the best ways to find an adoption agency is to ask your doctor, church, or attorney. They may be able to refer you to an adoption agency that they are familiar with and have experience with.

It’s not a good idea to flip through the yellow pages because you might get an agency that is brand new or has placed children incompatibly in the past.
You should get as many referrals as possible to different agencies so you can keep your options open and choose the one that you feel comfortable with.

Adoption agencies will have someone interview you and answer any questions you may have. Don’t agree to anything just yet.
Instead, attend a couple different interviews with various agencies so you get a feel for them.

You can then decide what agency is the most appealing. You can also ask the agencies for references. These references are usually people who have used their services in the past and can tell you how long it took and how the agency treated them. Read more...

Adopt a Child

Adopt a Child - Closed Adoption

Closed adoption is when a parent or parents adopt a child but the records of the biological parents are kept a secret.
Obviously, this can only be done with newborns and very young children who haven’t grown up around their biological parents.

This was one of the first types of adoption but more and more people are opting for open adoptions now.

Closed adoption guarantees that the adoptive and biological parents know nothing about each other. When the child reaches age 18, they may want to find out about their biological parents and that can sometimes be arranged by certain organizations.

Closed adoptions are great for those who want to truly have the feeling of being a parent with no outside interference. Usually, the child is an infant or toddler when the adoption occurs and the adoptive parents raise them completely like their own blood.

This has some benefits to the adoptive parents that other adoption choices don’t have. There is no dealing with the biological family and very little chance of a difficult situation arising in the future.

Closed adoptions can be easier on a child because to them, they have always had one set of parents. As they grow up however, these parents or other family members may reveal to them that they are adopted and this can cause some stress but if they are old enough, they can appreciate the situation.

There are lots of services and counseling options that can help a child if they find out they are adopted at the wrong time. Read more...